…as long as you love me, baby..

…as long as you love me, baby..

I listened to this song in the car today, and it brought back all those romantic feelings you feel about the feeling of “being in love”. I couldn’t help but wonder.. ;-)..are these feelings really more fantastic than romantic? Perhaps being in love is a feeling that we simply fantasize about, and that is as romantic as love really gets. When we think we’re in love, are we really? Or are we just fantasizing about something that seems like the “in love” we have seen in movies. I am pretty sure that the “loving” exists; I’m just not sure about the “in love”.

I think in most relationships, I have seen that couples, siblings, friends really do love each other, but I have not seen a couple that is really “in love”, except in movies and songs. The fact that romantic movies and heartfelt songs can invoke such emotions within us suggests that these emotions do exist. Or does it really suggest that we can imagine a lot more than there is?

Perhaps how I feel about the existence of God. Do we, humans, really exaggerate and fantasize about everything? No doubt, that is the gift of imagination we do have. Nevertheless, there comes a point when one must decide whether this imagination or fantasy, the thing we dream about, is it really something we want to give up our reality for? I don’t know about God, and I believe all religion is an amplification of humanity, a higher goal to reach for. But when that belief becomes so strong that we begin to forget what we DO know best (Humanity, that is!), that is when I stop and reassess. I am quite decisive and content with my “belief” in God now. Not sure about this love-like stuff.

This is what I do know:
I just had a customer come in today who told me she was looking for a dress, and in further conversation, she told me how the dress she needs has to fit certain guidelines because she is to see her friend in an “institution”. At first, I wondered if she was dressing up for a guy at the mental institution, or perhaps just for her brother or female friend. Then, knowing girls, I realized that her wanting to look this cute couldn’t just be for a mere friend. As she looked at herself in the mirror, and examined further, she mentioned how “the prison” is really strict about the dress code of visitors. And here, for a second, I couldn’t help but judge a bit. I thought, wow she’s all excited to go see a boyfriend that is perhaps a criminal? I realize that I can be completely off in all my assumptions. If, nevertheless, any of my assumptions are true, and while I can judge her for many other things, I chose to really admire how excited she was! It is just how I would be for a guy I wanted to impress. We can have different tastes, and be completely different human beings, but her excitement, and her actual effort for this meeting in the prison, left me with pleasant feelings.

We all want love, and we all really do love. We make that leap…the leap Hitch talks about…and we hope to God that we’ll fly…! We have seen failures in every relationship, every single one, but we always think ours will fly. This hope, this belief, is so so preciosa! I have leapt before, and failed miserably. I know others have leapt for me, and I have ended up hurting them. But I also know, the satisfaction of leaping, the contentment that results from the capability to feel such emotions from someone, is simply worth it. We fail every time more or less, but that leap, we never forget.

The leap tells you. It speaks loud and clear that you love someone. It also shows how you want to fall in love. It is simply a fall that we are willing to take.

My customer also mentioned (when she warmed up to me, of course) that the last time she visited him, she wore jeans the whole time, and he told her not to wear jeans because he cannot feel her legs ;-). Now, I know this can bring about dirty connotations and take my blog to another level of interest, but let me focus on the main point here. It made me smile when she said that, and I could not help but think it was cute! Methods might be different, but trust me, we all be in da saaaame boat!

And… I ask you to follow my train of thought just a bit here… remember how I mentioned that people forget about humanity and focus on the amplification of it? Well, I think we amplify love. We wait for a movie love, we wait for that perfect fall in love, when really we feel love every day. Hmm..let’s see…we want love…they want love…then uh..the problem is...?

Here we are, we merely have to reach out and feel all the cuteness and happiness that loving and being loved brings! because...really now..who knows if there will ever be an “in love”. What we know is what we know right now. So go meet the man in prison if you love him, don’t wait for the guy that WILL BE. Make that leap =)

Love -because I'm worth it! ;-)